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If I'm understand you, I can say that even if you have all settings exactly the same, they not will sounds the same, cause they are not the same Crossfeed.
But if the problem is just that you want the HF attenuation +1.5dB than the lowest degree (-6.0dB), you can try one of the next 2 ways:
1) You must compensate attenuating in -1.5dB both the Direct Gain and Cross Gain. Maybe this will works as the same as you increase HF from -6.0dB to -4.5dB.
2) Supposing that the Cross Gain affects the amount of HF adjust too, so you must compensate attenuating in -3.0dB both the Direct Gain and Cross Gain. Maybe it works as you increase +1.5dB on HF.
For example:
Suppose you have this settings on Foobar2000:
Direct Gain: -10
Cross gain: -10
HF Atten.: -4.5
Then you decrease all at same amount (-3.0dB), resulting:
Direct Gain: -13
Cross gain: -13
HF Atten.: -7.5
So, you finally increase 1.5dB to "HF Attenuation":
Direct Gain: -13
Cross gain: -13
HF Atten.:
-6.0 You got the same result!
I'm not shure which method will works. You can try.

Sorry about my english.
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