If two Devs tell you it isn't possible then you can be pretty sure that it is not possible.
Off the top of my head
First would be the Bluetooth protocol in use I know mobile phones support a subset of AT modem commands for simple control
through the AVRCP protocol
However I'm not sure what is most common in players probably the GAVDP protocol and I don't think it supports two way communication
at the very least you have to flip the source and sink which just complicates matters more not to mention how the sink implements the commands
Finally there are not many players that support Bluetooth so the effort versus reward is a pretty small
But as always if you would like to do the work no one is stopping you.
https://www.bluetooth.com/specifications/profiles-overviewAVRCP
Audio/Video Remote Control Profile
GAVDP
Generic Audio/Video Distribution Profile
Source
The device providing the music
Sink
The device playing the music