Check the manual under the Playback Settings chapter, according to the manual it's either enabled or disabled. I'd imagine that means in order to alter it in any way you'd need to download the Rockbox source code, find the code that handles the fadeout on stop/pause, and edit it according to what changes you want to make.
Check the DocsIndex on the wiki (it's right on the site's sidebar, last entry under Documentation) to find articles on how to download the source code via SVN, how to set up a build environment, and more.